It’s been a long couple years for me and my family. This year has been incredibly difficult with the passing of my mother. I have never missed anyone like this and don’t think I ever will. It changed me as a person. Thankfully, I am aware of the importance of healthy grieving and not rushing the process at all. I am very aware and sensitive to a lot of new things now and that’s definitely a by product of grief and loss. As the holidays approach, I can sense waves of memories coming at more frequent pace and if I’m honest I’m not in the “holiday season” mood. I am coming to terms with the fact that for the first thanksgiving my favorite human in the world won’t be there. I am sharing all of this because it’s real and honest but more so to say what she taught me.
My mom wasn’t rich and lived a very content life off a little. The thing she did so well was give of herself. Her time. Her presence. Her attention. As we all reflect on her that’s what we miss the most. To be honest, that’s what matters most.
We live in a world so rushed and busy. We live in a world so screen driven that folks have forgotten the art of human interaction. The world is very different. I know things change but must everything change?
People whom I never met inbox me and share the impact my mom had on them. They remember conversations, random events she showed up at to support and a ton of other seemingly insignificant interactions that meant a great deal to them.
We all want to be known and loved. We all want to be seen. We don’t just want to be a face in the crowd. We have the ability to serve people in that way. You can show someone that you see them. You never know what a difference that can make. It doesn’t have to be something grand. It just needs to be something real and authentic.
Thanks momma for just one of the many lessons your life taught me and will continue to teach me.
John 13:35 beautifully reminds us that folks will know we are disciples (students of our triune God the Father, the Son Jesus Christ and Holy Spirit) by our love for one another.
Until Next Time
Demetrius